Wedding Expenses Going Sky High. WHY?

Now-a-days, wedding expenses are going sky high; I fail to understand the reason behind this. Let me define marriage. Marriage is a legal union of a man and woman as husband and wife, which doesn’t require hundreds of people in the first place, neither 6 functions (like in case of traditional Indian weddings) nor a grand wedding hall.

Little do people realize the money they waste on such occasions. I don’t call it a wedding; I call it an opportunity to show off to the maximum. People book the most expensive function halls, arrange the dinner in a very grand manner, buy oodles of jewelery enough to blind you (rather to not be one wearing the least), forcing relatives to spend as much as the bride/groom on clothes; when this is not at all required. I do agree that all of us want to have the best, and dream to have a memorable wedding but it shouldn’t go to extremes where it can’t be affordable. Some don’t do justice by not thinking about the hungry people on the streets and the ones who can’t have basic facilities like shelter, clothing, even half a meal or education.


An extravagant wedding is not a problem for the people having money, my focus is on those who can't afford such a grand wedding. By hook or crook they have to arrange for money; they drown themselves in loans, do anything and everything as they have to live up to not their own expectations but those of the society because this has become a trend. Peoples mentalities are changing so drastically that it is now very difficult to change back, very difficult to do the right, to do what God has asked us to do. And dream of having weddings that not only satisfy us but also show our consideration towards other people.

Like I said, this has become a trend. If a wedding is not done in a grand manner, the people who have absolutely nothing to do with it and have to incur none of the expenses start talking nonsense. They assume that the families of the bride and groom don’t have money- like that is a crime!. They don’t understand that a wedding just as satisfying can be done in a simple way. A less expensive wedding with your loved ones is any time better and comfortable for the bride and groom. After all it’s their day!

The harsh truth is that we are more concerned about the society and what they want rather than what is convenient for us because spending enormous amount of money on weddings is totally unnecessary, when instead the same money can be given to the poor people who hardly eat food. There are of course many better reasons to invest your hard earned money , well even if you have a lot of it you can invest it for a child’s education; it can be saved for your old age; for your child’s future, can be used for the betterment of humanity/less privileged.

Even though this article is rather contrary to what you might perceive a wedding to be like, this is the bitter truth and its better that we realize this now and make a change before weddings become more of a burden for even the people who are living a decent life. Its time we realize, we wake up; we change for the better and prove the difference. And make it a point that even if it's important for us to be spending so much on our wedding, we should be fair and contribute some to the poor, it could be a way of starting a new life by helping the people around you.

I have written this article for everyone’s good, for everyone to realize that no religion permits us to over spend, the expenses should be as per the necessities and exaggerated expenses for want of anything is forbidden.

Here is a useful link that might make things a little more clear and is entertaining too!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rH2nNt1s5pk&feature=PlayList&p=409C23E2F903F8D3&index=2

Samreen Fathima Mirza, 17

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